Trust.....

Why is it so difficult to trust others ? Not just strangers, people don't trust even their own friends and relatives. If you don't agree then, ask them for some money, good amount not huge or small. Then you will know. Even if they have excess money lying just like that, not being used or invested or black money stuffed in bank lockers, still they are reluctant to give you - though you need desperately. Why is it? Do these people don't want to help you? No they do want to help but they don't trust you enough that you will return it back. But what I really don't understand is my friends from last 20years, who know what I am, close friends don't give. I wonder why it is so? Many of them have had bad experience or even when they don't have such experience they have heard it from others, they expect it will not come back.People say if you lend your money, it will never come back. You will lose your money as well as the relationship. I ask what is the kind of relationship they are having with you if they don't trust you enough to lend or donate in your difficult times?
Coming to the other side of it, I gave one of my friend whom I know from past 6 years a substantial amount of money as she needed very badly( to pay her son's tuition fee) and I did not need just then and I said to her I need in a month's time as I have to pay my flat installment. She agreed but even after even after 8 months I still have to get 2/3rd of it back.What should I make out of it? Should I decide I should never give any money to anyone again even if they are my close friends? Should I conclude you cannot trust anyone? No I am not going to do that even after many sleepless nights as I did not have money to pay the builder and he was calling repeatedly 'pay now or we will put 24% interest'. Just because one friend does not keep her word, I don't want conclude all are like that. I don't want to lose faith in everyone because one friend did not take her commitment seriously. My relationship with her in regard to trust may have changed but I am not going to allow it to spoil my relationship with the whole world and all the people in it and also with her.
Maybe from every experience there is something to learn. Maybe whatever happens, there is for a reason. I had to go through it. I believe so. Maybe I owed her in my previous incarnation!  One can always earn money - money comes and goes but might not. So its OK. It happens. I will manage as I always have.